How to cope with difficult situations associated with incontinency:

  1. Embarrassment
    • Admit to the problem, make a joke, understand that this is very common. Always remember you have not failed. Your body is going through changes that you can’t control, and you are doing the best you can.
  2. Mixed Emotions
    • Find someone you can talk to and confide about your feelings, perhaps a doctor or a counselor, perhaps an incontinence support group or family. Bottling up these feelings can only lead to a sense of sadness and depression. Confessing to your emotions and thoughts can help to take the “edge” off the situation.
  3. Loss of Privacy
    • Talk to your caregiver or others sharing your home about how your loss of privacy associated with going to the bathroom etc. makes you feel. There is a more comfortable solution to deal with this which will give you a greater sense of independence and privacy. For example, using your favorite room deodorizer can help keep the issue private. Keeping pads and incontinence undergarments neatly packed in a nice user-friendly area in the bathroom so it is functional and not invasive to your everyday lifestyle.
  4. Anxiety and Isolation
    • Always carry extra protection with you, whether it’s pads, our underwear, or both, to give yourself confidence knowing that you have extra security on-hand. Be confident and know that whatever happens can be dealt with. Allow others to help you search for solutions to help address this problem. Do not bear the burden yourself.
  5. Denial
    • Denial often happens when you don’t want to admit to having an incontinence problem. If someone else brings up the topic, be willing to discuss the problem and possible solutions. Talk with your doctor, nurse, or an occupational therapist for more tips on managing and living with incontinence.
  6. Equipment
    • Check out the options at the Dignity4You website, your local pharmacy or ask your doctor or nurse. You could also see an occupational therapist who can show you the best solution for your lifestyle and current situation. Remember It’s not “giving up” to use a product. Using a product can help keep you regain your dignity and independence.
  7. Certain drinks, foods and medications can act as diuretics — stimulating your bladder and increasing your volume of urine. They include:
  • Alcohol
  • Caffeine
  • Carbonated drinks and sparkling water
  • Artificial sweeteners
  • Chocolate
  • Chili peppers
  • Foods that are high in spice, sugar or acid, especially citrus fruits
  • Heart and blood pressure medications, sedatives, and muscle relaxants
  • Large doses of vitamin C
  1. Complications of chronic urinary incontinence include:
    • Urinary tract infections. Increased risk of repeated urinary tract infections.
    • Skin problems. Rashes, skin infections and sores can develop from a constantly wet skin.
    • Impacts on your personal life. It can affect your social, work and personal relationships.



Urinary incontinence is not always preventable, but risk can be reduced:

  • Don't smoke, or seek help to quit smoking
  • Maintain a healthy weight
  • Avoid bladder irritants, such as caffeine, alcohol and acidic foods
  • Practice pelvic floor exercises
  • Eat more fiber to prevent constipation, a cause of urinary incontinence